Mar 23, 2010

e-ntroductions

When you 'meet' someone for the first time over something as anti-septic as email, how much are you allowed to judge them? I seem to pay attention to their speed of response, their level of apology if they have taken time to reply, the attention they give your email's content (assuming you have taken every care not o intrude on their time and energy), and the thin line that divides curtness from concision.

However, the first time recipient of an email may not even be aware of being judged in this way. Being conscious that your writing styles evokes intangible qualities such as gentleness, enthusiasm, interest, annoyance, bite, and engagement would help. Eventually, treating one as you would expect to be treated by another is the easiest of thumb-rules to apply.

5 comments:

Abhishek said...

you have no option but to judge them :( hopefully your mind is malleable enough to forgive past mistakes and reform such judgments.

Amrita said...

perfectly fine. you must judge.

Preeti said...

There is research galore in computer mediated communication on what reduced social context cues does for impression formation and management. It would not have existed were it not for the judging and self presentation we all do. Also, emails do have an after life. All the more reason to be aware of what you write.

Sandip said...

yes, i know you pay attention to all these things... have had first hand experience sometime back :)
it's always nice if you know someone at the other end does pay such an attention to your email!

Animesh Kulkarni said...

i doubt ppl think that much about mails.